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Mental load guides
447 guides on the invisible work of running a home — sorted by who is carrying it, where you live, and what it actually feels like day to day.
By situation
The mental load looks different depending on who is carrying it. Start with the guide that matches your household.
- Mental load for Working mums
- Mental load for Stay-at-home mums
- Mental load for New parents
- Mental load for Mums with ADHD
- Mental load for Single parents
- Mental load for Couples
- Mental load for Dads
- Mental load for Millennial parents
- Invisible labour for Working mums
- Invisible labour for Stay-at-home mums
- Invisible labour for New parents
- Invisible labour for Mums with ADHD
- Invisible labour for Single parents
- Invisible labour for Couples
- Invisible labour for Dads
- Invisible labour for Millennial parents
- Household task sharing for Working mums
- Household task sharing for Stay-at-home mums
- Household task sharing for New parents
- Household task sharing for Mums with ADHD
- Household task sharing for Single parents
- Household task sharing for Couples
- Household task sharing for Dads
- Household task sharing for Millennial parents
- The third shift for Working mums
- The third shift for Stay-at-home mums
- The third shift for New parents
- The third shift for Mums with ADHD
- The third shift for Single parents
- The third shift for Couples
- The third shift for Dads
- The third shift for Millennial parents
- Emotional labour for Working mums
- Emotional labour for Stay-at-home mums
- Emotional labour for New parents
- Emotional labour for Mums with ADHD
- Emotional labour for Single parents
- Emotional labour for Couples
- Emotional labour for Dads
- Emotional labour for Millennial parents
- Being the default parent for Working mums
- Being the default parent for Stay-at-home mums
- Being the default parent for New parents
- Being the default parent for Mums with ADHD
- Being the default parent for Single parents
- Being the default parent for Couples
- Being the default parent for Dads
- Being the default parent for Millennial parents
- Weaponised incompetence for Working mums
- Weaponised incompetence for Stay-at-home mums
- Weaponised incompetence for New parents
- Weaponised incompetence for Mums with ADHD
- Weaponised incompetence for Single parents
- Weaponised incompetence for Couples
- Weaponised incompetence for Dads
- Weaponised incompetence for Millennial parents
- Fair play at home for Working mums
- Fair play at home for Stay-at-home mums
- Fair play at home for New parents
- Fair play at home for Mums with ADHD
- Fair play at home for Single parents
- Fair play at home for Couples
- Fair play at home for Dads
- Fair play at home for Millennial parents
- Cognitive load at home for Working mums
- Cognitive load at home for Stay-at-home mums
- Cognitive load at home for New parents
- Cognitive load at home for Mums with ADHD
- Cognitive load at home for Single parents
- Cognitive load at home for Couples
- Cognitive load at home for Dads
- Cognitive load at home for Millennial parents
- Shared parenting for Working mums
- Shared parenting for Stay-at-home mums
- Shared parenting for New parents
- Shared parenting for Mums with ADHD
- Shared parenting for Single parents
- Shared parenting for Couples
- Shared parenting for Dads
- Shared parenting for Millennial parents
- Relationship balance for Working mums
- Relationship balance for Stay-at-home mums
- Relationship balance for New parents
- Relationship balance for Mums with ADHD
- Relationship balance for Single parents
- Relationship balance for Couples
- Relationship balance for Dads
- Relationship balance for Millennial parents
- Burnout recovery for Working mums
- Burnout recovery for Stay-at-home mums
- Burnout recovery for New parents
- Burnout recovery for Mums with ADHD
- Burnout recovery for Single parents
- Burnout recovery for Couples
- Burnout recovery for Dads
- Burnout recovery for Millennial parents
By country
How household task sharing, the default-parent problem and invisible labour play out in different countries.
- Mental load in the United States
- Mental load in the United Kingdom
- Mental load in Canada
- Mental load in Australia
- Mental load in India
- Mental load in New Zealand
- Mental load in Ireland
- Mental load in South Africa
- Invisible labor in the United States
- Invisible labour in the United Kingdom
- Invisible labour in Canada
- Invisible labour in Australia
- Invisible labour in India
- Invisible labour in New Zealand
- Invisible labour in Ireland
- Invisible labour in South Africa
- Household task sharing in the United States
- Household task sharing in the United Kingdom
- Household task sharing in Canada
- Household task sharing in Australia
- Household task sharing in India
- Household task sharing in New Zealand
- Household task sharing in Ireland
- Household task sharing in South Africa
- The third shift in the United States
- The third shift in the United Kingdom
- The third shift in Canada
- The third shift in Australia
- The third shift in India
- The third shift in New Zealand
- The third shift in Ireland
- The third shift in South Africa
- Emotional labor in the United States
- Emotional labour in the United Kingdom
- Emotional labour in Canada
- Emotional labour in Australia
- Emotional labour in India
- Emotional labour in New Zealand
- Emotional labour in Ireland
- Emotional labour in South Africa
- Being the default parent in the United States
- Being the default parent in the United Kingdom
- Being the default parent in Canada
- Being the default parent in Australia
- Being the default parent in India
- Being the default parent in New Zealand
- Being the default parent in Ireland
- Being the default parent in South Africa
- Weaponised incompetence in the United States
- Weaponised incompetence in the United Kingdom
- Weaponised incompetence in Canada
- Weaponised incompetence in Australia
- Weaponised incompetence in India
- Weaponised incompetence in New Zealand
- Weaponised incompetence in Ireland
- Weaponised incompetence in South Africa
- Fair play at home in the United States
- Fair play at home in the United Kingdom
- Fair play at home in Canada
- Fair play at home in Australia
- Fair play at home in India
- Fair play at home in New Zealand
- Fair play at home in Ireland
- Fair play at home in South Africa
- Cognitive load at home in the United States
- Cognitive load at home in the United Kingdom
- Cognitive load at home in Canada
- Cognitive load at home in Australia
- Cognitive load at home in India
- Cognitive load at home in New Zealand
- Cognitive load at home in Ireland
- Cognitive load at home in South Africa
- Shared parenting in the United States
- Shared parenting in the United Kingdom
- Shared parenting in Canada
- Shared parenting in Australia
- Shared parenting in India
- Shared parenting in New Zealand
- Shared parenting in Ireland
- Shared parenting in South Africa
- Relationship balance in the United States
- Relationship balance in the United Kingdom
- Relationship balance in Canada
- Relationship balance in Australia
- Relationship balance in India
- Relationship balance in New Zealand
- Relationship balance in Ireland
- Relationship balance in South Africa
- Burnout recovery in the United States
- Burnout recovery in the United Kingdom
- Burnout recovery in Canada
- Burnout recovery in Australia
- Burnout recovery in India
- Burnout recovery in New Zealand
- Burnout recovery in Ireland
- Burnout recovery in South Africa
By what you are feeling
Burnout, mum rage, resentment, never being able to switch off — what each one is telling you, and what to do about it.
- Why am i so angry — for Working mums
- Why am i so angry — for Stay-at-home mums
- Why am i so angry — for New parents
- Why am i so angry — for Mums with ADHD
- Why am i so angry — for Single parents
- Why am i so angry — for Couples
- Why am i so angry — for Dads
- Why am i so angry — for Millennial parents
- Always exhausted — for Working mums
- Always exhausted — for Stay-at-home mums
- Always exhausted — for New parents
- Always exhausted — for Mums with ADHD
- Always exhausted — for Single parents
- Always exhausted — for Couples
- Always exhausted — for Dads
- Always exhausted — for Millennial parents
- Invisible work — for Working mums
- Invisible work — for Stay-at-home mums
- Invisible work — for New parents
- Invisible work — for Mums with ADHD
- Invisible work — for Single parents
- Invisible work — for Couples
- Invisible work — for Dads
- Invisible work — for Millennial parents
- No help at home — for Working mums
- No help at home — for Stay-at-home mums
- No help at home — for New parents
- No help at home — for Mums with ADHD
- No help at home — for Single parents
- No help at home — for Couples
- No help at home — for Dads
- No help at home — for Millennial parents
- Husband doesnt help — for Working mums
- Husband doesnt help — for Stay-at-home mums
- Husband doesnt help — for New parents
- Husband doesnt help — for Mums with ADHD
- Husband doesnt help — for Single parents
- Husband doesnt help — for Couples
- Husband doesnt help — for Dads
- Husband doesnt help — for Millennial parents
- Always the default — for Working mums
- Always the default — for Stay-at-home mums
- Always the default — for New parents
- Always the default — for Mums with ADHD
- Always the default — for Single parents
- Always the default — for Couples
- Always the default — for Dads
- Always the default — for Millennial parents
- Touched out — for Working mums
- Touched out — for Stay-at-home mums
- Touched out — for New parents
- Touched out — for Mums with ADHD
- Touched out — for Single parents
- Touched out — for Couples
- Touched out — for Dads
- Touched out — for Millennial parents
- Mom rage — for Working mums
- Mom rage — for Stay-at-home mums
- Mom rage — for New parents
- Mom rage — for Mums with ADHD
- Mom rage — for Single parents
- Mom rage — for Couples
- Mom rage — for Dads
- Mom rage — for Millennial parents
- Partner doesnt notice — for Working mums
- Partner doesnt notice — for Stay-at-home mums
- Partner doesnt notice — for New parents
- Partner doesnt notice — for Mums with ADHD
- Partner doesnt notice — for Single parents
- Partner doesnt notice — for Couples
- Partner doesnt notice — for Dads
- Partner doesnt notice — for Millennial parents
- Mental overload — for Working mums
- Mental overload — for Stay-at-home mums
- Mental overload — for New parents
- Mental overload — for Mums with ADHD
- Mental overload — for Single parents
- Mental overload — for Couples
- Mental overload — for Dads
- Mental overload — for Millennial parents
- Always planning — for Working mums
- Always planning — for Stay-at-home mums
- Always planning — for New parents
- Always planning — for Mums with ADHD
- Always planning — for Single parents
- Always planning — for Couples
- Always planning — for Dads
- Always planning — for Millennial parents
- Cant relax — for Working mums
- Cant relax — for Stay-at-home mums
- Cant relax — for New parents
- Cant relax — for Mums with ADHD
- Cant relax — for Single parents
- Cant relax — for Couples
- Cant relax — for Dads
- Cant relax — for Millennial parents
- Carrying everything — for Working mums
- Carrying everything — for Stay-at-home mums
- Carrying everything — for New parents
- Carrying everything — for Mums with ADHD
- Carrying everything — for Single parents
- Carrying everything — for Couples
- Carrying everything — for Dads
- Carrying everything — for Millennial parents
- No appreciation — for Working mums
- No appreciation — for Stay-at-home mums
- No appreciation — for New parents
- No appreciation — for Mums with ADHD
- No appreciation — for Single parents
- No appreciation — for Couples
- No appreciation — for Dads
- No appreciation — for Millennial parents
- Doing it all — for Working mums
- Doing it all — for Stay-at-home mums
- Doing it all — for New parents
- Doing it all — for Mums with ADHD
- Doing it all — for Single parents
- Doing it all — for Couples
- Doing it all — for Dads
- Doing it all — for Millennial parents
- Second shift — for Working mums
- Second shift — for Stay-at-home mums
- Second shift — for New parents
- Second shift — for Mums with ADHD
- Second shift — for Single parents
- Second shift — for Couples
- Second shift — for Dads
- Second shift — for Millennial parents
- Third shift — for Working mums
- Third shift — for Stay-at-home mums
- Third shift — for New parents
- Third shift — for Mums with ADHD
- Third shift — for Single parents
- Third shift — for Couples
- Third shift — for Dads
- Third shift — for Millennial parents
- Emotional exhaustion — for Working mums
- Emotional exhaustion — for Stay-at-home mums
- Emotional exhaustion — for New parents
- Emotional exhaustion — for Mums with ADHD
- Emotional exhaustion — for Single parents
- Emotional exhaustion — for Couples
- Emotional exhaustion — for Dads
- Emotional exhaustion — for Millennial parents
- Mental load crushing — for Working mums
- Mental load crushing — for Stay-at-home mums
- Mental load crushing — for New parents
- Mental load crushing — for Mums with ADHD
- Mental load crushing — for Single parents
- Mental load crushing — for Couples
- Mental load crushing — for Dads
- Mental load crushing — for Millennial parents
- Burnout symptoms — for Working mums
- Burnout symptoms — for Stay-at-home mums
- Burnout symptoms — for New parents
- Burnout symptoms — for Mums with ADHD
- Burnout symptoms — for Single parents
- Burnout symptoms — for Couples
- Burnout symptoms — for Dads
- Burnout symptoms — for Millennial parents
- Resentment building — for Working mums
- Resentment building — for Stay-at-home mums
- Resentment building — for New parents
- Resentment building — for Mums with ADHD
- Resentment building — for Single parents
- Resentment building — for Couples
- Resentment building — for Dads
- Resentment building — for Millennial parents
- Asking for help — for Working mums
- Asking for help — for Stay-at-home mums
- Asking for help — for New parents
- Asking for help — for Mums with ADHD
- Asking for help — for Single parents
- Asking for help — for Couples
- Asking for help — for Dads
- Asking for help — for Millennial parents
- Weaponized incompetence signs — for Working mums
- Weaponized incompetence signs — for Stay-at-home mums
- Weaponized incompetence signs — for New parents
- Weaponized incompetence signs — for Mums with ADHD
- Weaponized incompetence signs — for Single parents
- Weaponized incompetence signs — for Couples
- Weaponized incompetence signs — for Dads
- Weaponized incompetence signs — for Millennial parents
- Fair division impossible — for Working mums
- Fair division impossible — for Stay-at-home mums
- Fair division impossible — for New parents
- Fair division impossible — for Mums with ADHD
- Fair division impossible — for Single parents
- Fair division impossible — for Couples
- Fair division impossible — for Dads
- Fair division impossible — for Millennial parents
- Always nagging — for Working mums
- Always nagging — for Stay-at-home mums
- Always nagging — for New parents
- Always nagging — for Mums with ADHD
- Always nagging — for Single parents
- Always nagging — for Couples
- Always nagging — for Dads
- Always nagging — for Millennial parents
- Invisible labor signs — for Working mums
- Invisible labor signs — for Stay-at-home mums
- Invisible labor signs — for New parents
- Invisible labor signs — for Mums with ADHD
- Invisible labor signs — for Single parents
- Invisible labor signs — for Couples
- Invisible labor signs — for Dads
- Invisible labor signs — for Millennial parents
- Default parent exhaustion — for Working mums
- Default parent exhaustion — for Stay-at-home mums
- Default parent exhaustion — for New parents
- Default parent exhaustion — for Mums with ADHD
- Default parent exhaustion — for Single parents
- Default parent exhaustion — for Couples
- Default parent exhaustion — for Dads
- Default parent exhaustion — for Millennial parents
- Cognitive overload home — for Working mums
- Cognitive overload home — for Stay-at-home mums
- Cognitive overload home — for New parents
- Cognitive overload home — for Mums with ADHD
- Cognitive overload home — for Single parents
- Cognitive overload home — for Couples
- Cognitive overload home — for Dads
- Cognitive overload home — for Millennial parents
- Emotional labor draining — for Working mums
- Emotional labor draining — for Stay-at-home mums
- Emotional labor draining — for New parents
- Emotional labor draining — for Mums with ADHD
- Emotional labor draining — for Single parents
- Emotional labor draining — for Couples
- Emotional labor draining — for Dads
- Emotional labor draining — for Millennial parents
- Household mental burden — for Working mums
- Household mental burden — for Stay-at-home mums
- Household mental burden — for New parents
- Household mental burden — for Mums with ADHD
- Household mental burden — for Single parents
- Household mental burden — for Couples
- Household mental burden — for Dads
- Household mental burden — for Millennial parents
Skift vs other apps
Honest comparisons with the task and family apps people usually try first.